I don’t think I will ever forget the first thing Shaniqua ever said to me.
It was our first day of kindergarten and we had both just turned five during the summer. To me, an only child, school was a novelty. I had barely even heard of it before my first day, but to Shaniqua, with her three older brothers, school was a nightmare that she had dreaded for her whole life. I didn’t know that though, until many more years had passed.
Even at five, Shaniqua had somehow managed to possess the most stunning beauty. With her coffee coloured skin and her waist length jet black hair, she had a sense of love and innocence that seemed to follow her wherever she went.
I think that’s what made me walk up to her that first time, confident young lass that I was, and introduce myself.
“Hi,” I said, a smile dancing on my lips. “I’m Bailey. Who are you?”
Instead of replying, she just stared at me, brown eyes wide open, as though I was some sort of novelty.
I was naturally uncomfortable. Unsure quite what to do in such an odd situation, I stared back at her, and we both experienced what was probably the strangest and most intense moment in our short lives.
Finally, she spoke, still clearly confused.
“Are you sick?” she asked.
If I had expected her to say something, it wasn’t that.
“No!” I answered indignantly. “I had a runny nose last week but my Mom said I’m all better and I can go to school and I’m not sick!”
“Oh,” she said, but she kept staring at me, with an almost sympathetic expression, as if I had some kind of fatal disease which she knew about, but I didn’t.
She walked off then, and sat down, alone, on the ground, with her legs crossed and her hands limp in her lap. About an inch of her hair grazed the rough blue carpet as she sat.
Feeling awkward and a lot less confident than I had been at first, I too sat down, also by myself, as far away from that girl as I could. Squatting on my knees, I let my eyes search the room, perhaps looking for another pretty girl with which to try my luck, and that was when I realised something about my class. Every single person except for me had dark skin.
It shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. Living in a city where 85% of the population was black, the fact that I was the only white girl should have been a given. But looking around at my kindergarten class, I felt lonely. All of these people had something to hold them together, but I was the odd one out. I was the one who looked like I was “sick” and had people who didn’t even know me feeling sorry for me. All of the excitement of my first day had worn off. I just wanted to go home.
When my teacher called the class to come and sit in front of her chair, I went unwillingly, dragging each footstep as though I was trudging through mud. I sat down, purposefully at the very back of the group, leaving a large space between myself and the boy who sat in front of me.
Shaniqua stayed exactly where she had been since she left me, a silent statue which everyone simply milled around, barely noticing its existence. I didn’t particularly care what people thought of her, though. After all, she was the one who had defined me as what I now thought of myself: different.
Mrs Smith, her large bottom jiggling unattractively in her stereotypically flowery dress, sat in her throne with a thump, making a few of the boys sitting in front of me giggle.
Mrs Smith ignored them, and instead smiled out at us all, a warm, welcoming smile that made me feel that there might be some hope for my school life after all.
“Hello!” she exclaimed, her expression immediately taking on an air of excitement. “We are going to have an amazing year boys and girls! Now, normally I would tell you some of our important rules, before we start with the fun stuff, but today, I think we should get to know each other a bit first, don’t you?”
There were a few nods, and a few ‘yes’s, and then she was standing up again, her eyes filled with a youthful merriment.
“How about,” she decided, “we all stand up, and walk around the room as fast as we can! You can look at all of the things we have to do, and talk to all of your new friends!”
Without any further ado, everyone except for me was flinging themselves into the air and zooming around like fighter planes, mostly ignoring the word ‘walk’. I just sat there, avoiding the dancing feet, and fingered the hemming of my purple tee-shirt. It was strange, I thought, how enthusiastic people could be about the stupidest of little things, when they had someone to share them with.
The stubbornness that got me into so much trouble later on in life must have kicked in early, because when Mrs Smith came over and asked me if I’d like to stand up and have a look around, I replied firmly,
“I don’t want to.”
Instead of pushing it, she simply walked away, leaving me feeling strangely worse than before. It wasn’t that I didn’t want friends; I just didn’t think that they would want me, so I was very surprised, when miss black haired beauty made her careful way through the zigzagging kindergarteners and sat down beside me, cocking her pretty head to gaze questioningly at yours truly.
“Are you sure you aren’t sick?” she asked, the innocent question piercing my heart for the second time in less than twenty minutes. “I promise I won’t tell anyone.”
“I’m not sick,” I muttered. “I’m just a different colour.”
The next question was a logical one, but it left me speechless.
“Why?” she asked. “Why are you orange?”
“Ummm...” I blushed, and for a moment I wondered if perhaps she was right after all. Maybe my whole family and our next door neighbours were all sick. Why else would we be the only ones with such strange complexions? I didn’t tell her I had thought that, of course.
“God made me orange,” I confessed instead. “So I could blend in with... well... oranges, I think. My Mom didn’t tell me yet.”
“Ohhhh...” Shaniqua smiled, happy with this made up explanation. “I’m Shaniqua. Wanna come draw pictures with me?”
I wasn’t 100% sure whether that question meant that I was accepted, but I wasn’t going to risk saying no.
“Sure.”
I smiled at her, and off we went.